Turning point in history?
Well… as the initial excitement of an Obama win starts to sink in… and the feeling of inclusion makes us all feel all warm and fuzzy… the news of Prop 8 winning in California cuts straight through the happy glow. We always expected Arizona’s ban on gay marriage to pass as Arizona is a very conservative state with a lot of retired citizens. Florida wasn’t a surprise either due to the fact that they are also quite elderly and conservative. But California… well… don’t Californians promote themselves as the end-all be-all of equal rights?
I don’t know why it makes me so very angry. I don’t care in the least about getting married. It literally means nothing to me… and yet… I find myself outraged. I find it outrageous that the whole fight against gay couples’ right to marry was billed as a defense of marriage. Defense of marriage? Seriously?
Stace and I have been a couple for sixteen and a half years now. How many marriages do you personally know that have lasted that long? We have lasted through good times and some really rough times because we take our commitment seriously. How is that disrespectful of Marriage? How exactly does our relationship threaten marriage? Threaten your marriage?
I understand that you feel the institution of marriage is worth defending. But what I don’t understand is your manner of going about it. I mean if you want to defend marriage wouldn’t you think addressing the divorce rate might be where you should focus? The fact is that an estimated 50% of marriages end in divorce. Doesn’t that seem to be a direct attack on marriage? Why aren’t you working against divorce instead of working against gay marriages?
I’ll tell you why. You aren’t really concerned about defending the institution of marriage… you’re concerned about defending your right to be the only group of people who are entitled to that privilege. I think the thing that pisses me off more than anything else is that it appears to be the African American vote that killed this equal right for gays and lesbians. Here’s a quote from a Time article on Yahoo:
Polls show that black voters are more likely to attend church than whites and less likely to be comfortable with equality for gay people. According to CNN, African Americans voted against marriage equality by a wide margin, 69% to 31%. High turnout of African Americans in Florida probably help explain that state’s lopsided vote to ban same-sex weddings.
So at the same time that they were crying in the streets over this historic election… The same day they walked into a polling place and voted for the first time in history to send a black man to the white house… The same day they danced in the streets and praised Jesus that discrimination might finally be ending in America… That very same day they voted to deny me the basic human right to marry the person I love.
Gay people were overwhelmingly denied the right to marry by the same segment of society that coined the phrase “baby’s momma.” Seriously? How dare you? How do you have the balls? How is it you don’t see that all of your arguments against gay people are the same things bigoted white folk said about extending civil rights to black people 60 years ago?
I guess I’m just a little torn as to whether November 4th was really a turning point in American history… for me.